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Forming for Success or Character

By |2020-04-26T05:50:06+00:00January 25th, 2020|Articles, Scrutinies|

A father of some young kids left a long message for me this morning. The message says it all. This article really is a (partial) transcription. Here it goes: Caller: “Dr. Chavez, I want to share something with you. Because I think it is important. Maybe, maybe not. I just got a call from my [...]

Mentorship or “Know it All”

By |2020-03-05T03:04:07+00:00December 28th, 2019|Articles, Scrutinies|

The day after Christmas I received an email from a married man with a young kids disgruntled about the dynamics within his extended family. The brothers, sisters, cousins, uncles, in-laws all gathered again this year for their annual Christmas event. But this man began to notice something different—something irritating. “There used to be a bond [...]

Fatherhood, What do You Mean?

By |2020-03-05T03:16:17+00:00November 26th, 2019|Articles, Scrutinies|

A friend calls me up recently: “My uncle’s sons do not think about fatherhood, it is all about studies, the university and getting a great job…. These young guys are not even thinking about going out with girls.” “When asking these parents about how their kids are doing, it is always about how smart they [...]

Halloween Costumes: Don’t Want to Offend

By |2020-03-05T03:14:30+00:00November 4th, 2019|Articles, Scrutinies|

I received another (long) emotional message:  “I don’t understand this. Kids cannot wear Halloween costumes because it will offend other religions not participating in Halloween at School… And the fear is that costumes will offend the children who cannot afford one. A kid can only dress up in black, or wear an orange shirt.” He [...]

Girls on My Son’s Football Team?

By |2020-03-05T03:15:39+00:00October 15th, 2019|Articles, Scrutinies|

I received an email recently: “My son has been playing football every fall since he was 4. For the past two years, he has been playing tackle football. I have been coaching him at each level for the past five years. This year, surprisingly, will be the first year in all that time that young [...]

Emasculation at the Cost of Life

By |2020-04-26T05:44:23+00:00September 16th, 2019|Articles, Scrutinies|

Recently another tragic event occurred as a result of an audience that preferred to be entertained instead of step up and help—or rescue! On September 18, 2019, 16- year-old Khaseen Morris was stabbed by young men outside of strip mall in Nassau County, New York before a host of witnesses. This complacent crowd cost a [...]

Fathers and Short-shorts?

By |2020-02-14T21:06:35+00:00August 31st, 2019|Articles, Scrutinies|

Recently I received the following voice messages: “We have friends who are Christian, very devout in their faith, about what they say and do. They have no clue about modesty. Some of their kids [girls] wear very short shirts, with breasts showing. And these are people fully engaged in Christ.” “I can’t understand why some [...]